How to remain positive when you’ve been laid-off?

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JOB HUNT

 Job hunting can be a strenuous process, one which I am dealing with. I have recently got laid-off my job “due to corporate structuring”. Despite, it not being my dream role, such rejection still affected me. I was flooded with emotions. Angry, upset, depressed, relieved, etc. It took two weeks and I think I am over the negative emotions. Regardless, I am grateful for the opportunity and my boss writing me a reference letter. A kind gesture I remind myself when I feel discouraged. My word of advise to people out there who have lost their jobs due to corporate restructuring is ” Keep your head up and count your blessings”. Easier said than done right? but really, don’t hesitate to reach out to your former bosses and mentors for reference letters. I did and it worked. Don’t burn your bridges and stay humble because in the networking world, it is crucial to remain professional at all times.

CONFIDENCE
The worst they can say NO and then you move on to the next. When my father was alive, he used to tell me, “don’t loose hope because in this life you will get 100 NO’s and eventually one YES”. This is how I view the interviewing  process as well. And of course, dating but that is another story and separate article. My dating life is on pause right now possibly because I’m not ready for it. Confidence is about persistence, positivity and perseverance. It truly is about being your own boss and learning how to manage your emotional intelligence with others. This involves self-pep talks the minute you feel an instant negative thought seep into your brain. It’s a work-in-progress to be confident, so keep at it because this determines longevity in a job. Ask questions and be a better version of yourself. I started a freelance role that did not turn out to be such a great fit. I was told by the agency after a day of employment. I was upset, yet, relieved. Now I am grateful because I can begin again. A whole new slate and this time I plan to find something that suits my needs not just salary based but a role that fits me. This time around I plan to demonstrate confidence, to not fear the unknown nor create assumptions. I will make an effort and not let my anxieties or past experiences dominate my abilities.

SUPPORT
Currently, I am trying to remain optimistic about this change in my life. I compare it to dating where you get emotionally invested with a company and when you’re laid-off it feels like the end of a relationship. I am focused on applying to about 50 roles each day online. On the other hand, I am also trying to surround myself with good company, close friends that will be there for moral support. Ignoring all negative people such as ex- boy friends who come back to destroy my mental health. Surround yourself with positive vibes exclude those that wreak havoc upon yourself.

PERSPECTIVE
I believe placing one’s mental health first is a necessity to function. I’m a work-in-progress, I’ve cried, vented and binge-eaten, etc. as well as other behaviors. However, I had an epiphany while I was in solitude. I prayed and meditated all night. I woke up this morning and had a sudden energy to clean, organize and declutter my life. I did and I feel accomplished. Sometimes it’s the little things that count and the best thing in life aren’t always things. It’s about one’s self-consumption and present state of mind.

ACTION
While, I’ve become obsessive about my job hunt, I have decided to make time for myself. I have focused on better eating habits, full rest, reading, writing, art, walks, listening to music, chores, cleaning, organizing and positive thinking. This has helped me. I highly recommend engaging in healthy behaviors whilst seeking a job. Talk therapy truly helps as well, however lately, I’ve been involved in Art Therapy, an effective creative form of therapy. Sometimes, I draw, paint, mold, sculpt while discussing my feelings.  Analyzing this aspect about myself has helped me. It’s been amazing liberating to create beautiful art and write during this time. I found a form to cope with myself, I’ve felt as if I’ve let a weight off my shoulder. I have cried and vented. I have faith that I will get through this and if you’re experiencing a a similar situation. You will too! Find your way to cope and focus on what matters.

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GRADUATION SCHOOL REJECTION? DONT GIVE UP!

untitledI can procrastinate sometimes. For the past couple of weeks, I’ve been a bit stagnant with the entire graduate school process. I have to be honest, I felt discouraged upon rejection with my top three choices. Going forward, I don’t want to look back in retrospect and think I should have taken action.

It’s best to get started even if I have no clue where it’s going to lead to. If you can relate to this. These graduate school applications are quite costly and if applied already and have been rejected re-applying again is going to be a rather doubtful process. I don’t plan to see it like this anymore. I also plan to apply to other schools that fit my budget. I think it’s important to dedicate at least 7 hours to your application throughout the week for enhance your portfolio and sending out emails to your mentors.

Always let them know in advance regarding your recommendations. Make sure you specify a short summary of your goals or a quick outline. It can be a strenuous process knowing that some may not submit your letters in a timely manner or perhaps even at all. It is necessary to push oneself towards these goals. Don’t think about what you don’t want. THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT. THINK POSITIVE.

Create a board, a collage, a plan, a sticky note to add to your bulletin board. Make sure to adapt to your graduate school checklist. I got waitlisted from an ivy league and didn’t get accepted but you know what that’s not going to stop me from trying again. As well as keeping my options open. I’m very excited about my future and where I’m heading with my career. The ideas are brewing in my brain and I am beyond excited to get started. STARTING NOW.

HELLO FRUGAL SEPTEMBER!

 

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Freedom!

Why is paying off debt the hardest thing to do?! It’s really about being disciplined thats all. Planning is the key to eliminating debt. Slowly, but surely. All is going to get paid. My goal is to not spend on lunch and just bring my own at work. And that $6 dollar frap at Starbucks; not gonna

happen.  I have about 8 credit cards to pay off and cannot spend money outside anymore. I can’t use the excuse of not having enough time in the mornings to make my own lunch. My issue has always been FOMO (fear of missing out) I find myself not being able to say no to special events or outings.

I am a YES person! I say YES to everything. And then I suffer the consequences of being penniless.  Maybe September is going to be the month where I learn to say no. Its time to put myself first and literally ghost everyone around me. This will avoid debt and spending. This is part of Adulting right? or maybe not….maybe this is just a short break from the world. Either way, I’m on a rant at the moment. I can’t stop thinking about shopping or useless ways to spend my money. So, in order to avoid this I’m venting about the useful things I can do with my spare time.

Paying off debt may seem like a strenuous process, but it doesn’t have to be. There are many ways to keep yourself occupied if you can’t go out. Reading or working on that long lost blog on your to-do list is definitely a time saver. Not only are you doing something efficient but your stimulating your brain. Especially if you’re an aspiring writing graduate school major like me; these blogs are excellent way to gain exposure and build your portfolio.

Hobbies such as drawing or painting (if you have some supplies) because we know how costly art supplies can be; making the best use of your resources can go a long way. Maybe sell your art on websites like  http://www.satchiart.com or http://www.etsy.com, etc.  Cleaning your home and getting rid of unnecessary clutter that can be sold online. This can be time consuming but its worth the extra change; during my final semester of college last year, I sold over $2g on Ebay. All that money, helped me pay my academic finances. Now its time to sell again! This time around its time to get rid of useless debt.

Now that I’ve decided to ghost the world and become anti-social with these money-sucking outings with friends, I will suggest cheaper alternatives to connecting with friends. A text message, phone call, walk by the park or dinner at home will go a long way with your funds. Telling friends and family you can’t go out to spend because you are tight with money is not a big deal,  just be honest! Your true friends and family will understand. Everyone has bills and there will be times where you have to set your priorities straight. Now is the time to do so! September has officially begun.