FINDING TIME FOR YOURSELF

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Today I feel overwhelmed. Yes, I needed to take a personal sick day off from work for myself. It’s the worst feeling to wake up early ready for work and then decided your not going to go because the last minute cramps start to kick in and backache.  I’m also very anxious about all of my goals this Fall. I took Midol and no it did not solve my issues. As a female, I think its important to take some time off for yourself when your PMSING. There are a trillion things running through my mind at the moment and all I can do is write.

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BRB on a 1 hour bathroom break…

I am a writer and well it’s been a while since I’ve blogged on a continuous basis.  It is hard when you’re involved in a 9am to 6pm job that sucks the life out of you. My job isn’t terrible; in fact, my boss and co-workers are kind and pleasant to work with. However, it’s not my dream role and It pays my bills. Regardless, I am planning to apply to a few graduate schools next month. What lies ahead is a infinite amount of written work. I’ve realized how impatient I am with not getting instant gratification. I have worked hard my whole life and sometimes it feels like a vicious circle. I know I’m not the only one that feels this way, I’m a grown up millennial and yet at times, I just feel like a clueless toddler straddling through life. Is it ok to not be ADULTING as of yet? Or to be unsure of one’s next career path? Yeah, it’s normal. We are only humans. Some people are still finding themselves. As most MILLENNIALS, I have survived tough economic times such as  living through the subprime mortgage crisis and working a shit load of odd jobs to make ends meet while attending college and dealing with other obstacles. Settling in a permanent job is a fortunate outcome especially in this age, which is the reason I am so hesitant to leave at the moment. I don’t care how many business articles there are about the market’s vast improvement. I highly disagree; the fashion and business world is a very competitive field.  One in which I’ve worked in the majority of my adulthood.

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STEP RIGHT UP!

Some Recruiters can be a hit or miss but sometimes we have no choice but to be open-minded and give them a chance.  They will help you or turn the other cheek and literally ghost you for a younger shinier gullible desperate candidate. After a few years of working in the fashion industry; I’ve realized how much I would like to change my career. I don’t hate it, I just don’t care as much for it.

 

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BASIC MILLENNIALS, CAN WE NOT?

So I’m staying with my current job and building my writing portfolio on the side. I am very impulsive by nature, therefore, I’m training myself to be as disciplined as I can. Non-fiction Writing is helping me. Whether it’s writing about my personal life, issues, or goals. It works! Putting it in paper and seeing it work feels quite magical. Subconsciously its ingrained in your brain and eventually its achieved. So today, after my pressing yet hopeful rant ,I hope I can convince you fellow MILLENNIALS you’re not alone! I believe in you! You’re not going to be stuck in a dead end job.  Work hard towards your dream career. My suggestion is to ghost people on social media or in other words; disconnect from social media for a while. Stop posting cute photos, in order to gain attention from everyone, just be content with and by yourself. I think social media tends to make all of us unhappy because we are constantly  comparing ourselves to others. For example,  when we find our exes happy with someone else. We start to doubt ourselves. Why her not me? Whats wrong with me? It’s not fair, blah blah blah!…Just avoid lurking, if you find yourself doing so, read a book or write a blog! ( As I’m doing write now (pun intended hehe)) Okay, I will stop being corny. In addition, ignoring all text messages and calls from friends may just be the solution to that awful phone anxiety and co-dependence. Who cares if you didn’t make your friend’s fashion show or happy hour? It may sound selfish but at the moment take care of yourself, if you feel like you’re heading towards a mental breakdown. Bond with yourself. Read, write, paint, watch a movie, exercise, etc. Anything that helps you stay centered as long as you’re not hurting others.

Engage in healthy behavior such as proper dieting, learning new material, donating, volunteering, etc.  Seek new organizations that may even stimulate you in a group process for instance joining an art club or helping underprivileged communities. These changes will contribute to your happiness and help you find yourself. Friends come in different shapes and sizes, literally; and yes they will annoy the living shit out from us at times because no one’s perfect. All I can suggest is GHOST, take time for yourself and let them know you’re laying low this month and cannot ” hang out”  due to finances and busy schedule. Boom! Problem solved. NOW FOCUS ON YOURSELF! Share what you do to motivate yourself towards your goals throughout this tough economy and digital world.

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HELLO FRUGAL SEPTEMBER!

 

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Freedom!

Why is paying off debt the hardest thing to do?! It’s really about being disciplined thats all. Planning is the key to eliminating debt. Slowly, but surely. All is going to get paid. My goal is to not spend on lunch and just bring my own at work. And that $6 dollar frap at Starbucks; not gonna

happen.  I have about 8 credit cards to pay off and cannot spend money outside anymore. I can’t use the excuse of not having enough time in the mornings to make my own lunch. My issue has always been FOMO (fear of missing out) I find myself not being able to say no to special events or outings.

I am a YES person! I say YES to everything. And then I suffer the consequences of being penniless.  Maybe September is going to be the month where I learn to say no. Its time to put myself first and literally ghost everyone around me. This will avoid debt and spending. This is part of Adulting right? or maybe not….maybe this is just a short break from the world. Either way, I’m on a rant at the moment. I can’t stop thinking about shopping or useless ways to spend my money. So, in order to avoid this I’m venting about the useful things I can do with my spare time.

Paying off debt may seem like a strenuous process, but it doesn’t have to be. There are many ways to keep yourself occupied if you can’t go out. Reading or working on that long lost blog on your to-do list is definitely a time saver. Not only are you doing something efficient but your stimulating your brain. Especially if you’re an aspiring writing graduate school major like me; these blogs are excellent way to gain exposure and build your portfolio.

Hobbies such as drawing or painting (if you have some supplies) because we know how costly art supplies can be; making the best use of your resources can go a long way. Maybe sell your art on websites like  http://www.satchiart.com or http://www.etsy.com, etc.  Cleaning your home and getting rid of unnecessary clutter that can be sold online. This can be time consuming but its worth the extra change; during my final semester of college last year, I sold over $2g on Ebay. All that money, helped me pay my academic finances. Now its time to sell again! This time around its time to get rid of useless debt.

Now that I’ve decided to ghost the world and become anti-social with these money-sucking outings with friends, I will suggest cheaper alternatives to connecting with friends. A text message, phone call, walk by the park or dinner at home will go a long way with your funds. Telling friends and family you can’t go out to spend because you are tight with money is not a big deal,  just be honest! Your true friends and family will understand. Everyone has bills and there will be times where you have to set your priorities straight. Now is the time to do so! September has officially begun.